Statistics reveal that the vast majority of marriages that struggle with alcohol “addiction” are more likely to end in divorce than marriages that do not have any substance abuse. Four times as many marriages end in divorce citing alcohol use as a reason than other marriages resulting in divorce. However, there is help for a spouse with alcohol addiction.
Marriages that struggle with excessive alcohol use are not only physically and emotionally exhausting but can also be psychologically and physically damaging. Excessive alcohol users in most cases, are oblivious to the needs and feelings of those around them including their spouse, and will in almost every circumstance put their desire for alcohol above anyone else’s needs.
It is not uncommon for spouses with alcohol “addiction” to engage in infidelity. While the guilty party may plead that they were drunk at the time that does not make it sting any less for the other partner in the marriage. Domestic violence is a sad and often occurrence when a spouse has an alcohol “addiction”.
If you have noticed changes in your spouse’s alcohol consumption to include drinking in the morning or throughout the day and that they emphatically deny having a problem, then you may need help for your spouse with alcohol “addiction”. Or, if your spouse is struggling to hold onto their job – or lost their job because of their alcohol use, your spouse may need assistance.
While it may be difficult to get your spouse to accept that they have a problem with alcohol use, it may be necessary to stand your ground and insist that they get help. Once your spouse agrees to get help for their problem, there may be a period of depression and they may become anxious at the thought of treatment. According to most alcohol treatment specialists, these are normal feelings and not unusual.
Finding the right help for your spouse with alcohol “addiction” will depend on the type of treatment they need. For example, will your spouse need detox? Detoxification is the process of cleansing the body’s system of the chemical impurities that have accumulated from their drinking. After they have completed detox (or if they did not need detox, then this is the first step), it may be necessary for your spouse to enter a program that can help them learn to deal with the stresses or life in a manner that does not include returning to alcohol use.
There are several different programs available. 12 step programs are the more traditional methods for rehab treatment, but there are alternative programs that are actually 12 times more effective and provide a true solution. For example many people turn to a more holistic approach, while others turn to cognitive behavioral education to help them overcome alcohol use.