Studies show that relationships in alcohol and drug recovery are more likely to fall apart than relationships without drug or alcohol use in most cases because the partner will not give up their substance use. Statistics show that one in four marriages with drug and alcohol use end in divorce.
Relationships in alcohol and drug recovery are physically and psychologically destructive as well as emotionally draining. In most cases, the partner with substance use is insensitive to the feelings and needs of the other partner in the relationship and will, in every instance will put their drug and alcohol use above everything else.
It is not uncommon for co-dependency to exist in relationships where one partner has substance use. Co dependency can result in the partner without drug or alcohol use to develop a substance issue. It can also lead to the non substance use partner to become dominant or controlling of the partner with drug or alcohol use problems, even threatening to abandon or leave the relationship.
Denial is another issue in relationships in alcohol and drug recovery as either partner in the relationship may refuse to acknowledge that there is a problem. As the partner without substance use tries to persuade the other to get help for their problem, they may be met with resistance. Obvious signs of a substance use issue may include problems in other relationships, trouble at work, legal and financial problems. Sadly, domestic violence is also an issue when relationships are in alcohol and drug recovery.
Getting your partner to agree to get help may take determination and standing your ground, but once they reach the decision to put the relationship at a higher priority of their drug and alcohol use, the next step is to find the right program for them. There are a number of different rehab treatment and alternative programs available. It is not uncommon for some individuals to become depressed and/or anxious about treatment and finding a program that can help address those feelings is important.
Traditional rehab treatment most often incorporate a 12 step program into their methods and while 12 step philosophy works for some individuals, it does not work for everyone. 12 step ideology supports that substance use is a disease and that the individual has no control over it. There are other alternative programs such as cognitive behavioral therapy which support the idea that drug and alcohol use are choices that the individual makes and the reason that they give for using drugs and alcohol are controllable and not connect to a disease.
St. Jude Retreats is a non treatment, non 12 step, six week program that uses cognitive behavioral education to help guests overcome their drug and alcohol use. The St. Jude program teaches guests to use self assessment and self change to reevaluate their decisions and choices and to make choices that are more productive. Guests learn to develop habits and behaviors that are positive and our guests discover that they can have a life that is permanently free from substance use.