If you have a loved one who is struggling with a drug use problem, family support for drug addicts in treatment is something that most programs offer. However, it is not always the best idea to plant in someone's head that they are responsible for someone else's substance use problems, which is what drug treatment centers often do.
Dealing with a person who has a substance use problem can be difficult and frustrating as you try to convince them to seek help, especially if they are not willing to listen. In some cases, the person wants help but their family is in denial, is unsure how to proceed, nobody knows the best way to bring up the topic, or there may be a breakdown in communication. These are typical concerns that families experience when there is a drug use problem. It's important to know that the majority of individuals who are successful in overcoming their drug issues do so because they had family support for their treatment.
Approaching a family member who has a drug use problem will take patience and keeping the lines of communication open. Every family is different. While some television programs promote the idea that a confrontational intervention is the way to go, this approach often only drives a wedge between family members, fractures communication, and sometimes drives the loved one deeper into drug use.
Professionals suggest that the more open lines of communication are and the calmer the situation, the more likely that the loved one will accept the help they need. It's best to avoid accusations, labels, or name-calling. A positive approach will promote a positive outcome and may help the entire family address unresolved issues.
It's also very important to not force a substance user into a program that has already been ineffective for them. If the program truly didn't work for them previously and they are voicing their concerns that can be a time to look for an approach that meets the individual's needs to be able to make these substantial lifestyle changes.
Many people who have been labeled as "drug addicts" are tired of 12 Step programs, recovery meetings and therapy. They are ready for a proven permanent solution. Respect the wishes of a substance user if they are truly voicing that they do not want to re-enter the same programs that have failed them before. It may be hard to trust them, but they have been through it enough times to know that they didn't get the results they needed in that program or its' approach. It's important to be supportive in their decision making as well and work with them to determine what they believe is a good fit and research programs that meet their criteria.
If your family member is seeking an alternative solution, try researching a non-treatment or non-12 Step program. It has been proven that 12 Steps have a low rate of success (5% or less). Research has also shown that a residential program is more effective for long term success than an outpatient one. A substance use program that helps people address their choices and behaviors is more effective than one that treats the individual like they are "diseased" and are not in control of their actions.
If your loved one is ready for a new life that does not include drugs and alcohol use and they believe they never were and never will be a "drug addict" or an "alcoholic", consider a program that can help your loved one change their substance use permanently and move forward with their life. Saint Jude Retreats never labels, judges or controls people but provides information and tools for them to create their best outcomes with a plan that meets their needs and that they can self-assess their own goal development and attainment for moving beyond substance use and forward with life.
Saint Jude Retreats is a non-treatment program that offers information and techniques to use Cognitive Behavioral Learning (CBL) and neuroplasticity to that will show your loved one how to self evaluate, make better choices, and develop habits and behaviors that are productive, positive, and purposeful. Call today for more information at 888.424.2626.